Tuesday, February 24, 2009

To stay or not to stay

They are doing the surgery friday. They don't need me here for the surgery, they may need me here for after the surgery, to give my stepmother a break here and there...

The kids have missed a ton of school this year because of his illness.

I'm torn, not sure if I should go home tomorrow or Thursday so the kids can get back to school, and then I can come back down in a few weeks, by myself during the week.. or take my daughter home on Weds and come back down on Thursday.

My daughter never wants to be here and we've just had a fight where she walked out telling me FU four times. I told her she was grounded and she told me no she wasn't. She's 18, still lives with me so I think I have that power.

So, I'm torn. They don't need me here, one kid wants to go, one wants to stay and I can't really afford to stay here till Saturday.

Oh and his surgery.. is 8 to 14 hours long.


annie kelleher said...

although your committment to your father is exemplary, you still have to live YOUR life. he, im pretty sure, would prefer you not allow the rest of your life to fall to pieces over his illness. he may well not survive this one. if he dies, you will have to take even more time off. you cannot control the course of what happens, but you do have responsiblities to live up to.

The Girl You Don't Bring Home to Momma said...

First off let me just say that your daughter, now matter how old she is should not be dropping the "F" bomb to her mother. She's lucky she's not mine, she'd have a fat lip to go along with that mouth.

And secondly....stay....I'm afraid you'll regret going home the minute you walk in the door.

Just sayin....

lisa24n7 said...

oh my friend, this is a tough situation to be in. I guess I would have to agree with Annie that he wouldn't want your life to fall apart due to his illness. But I can sure feel your dilemma...I would have to say to follow what is in your heart. hugs