Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Liars

Have you ever found yourself looking back at things, putting things together and then realizing that you've been lied to?

What did you do? How did you handle it? Did you confront the person right away, or did you calm down first? Were you kind during the confrontation, or were you angry and loud about it?

Do you demand an apology? Do you ask for an admittance of being lied to? What if they deny it, even though you have proof right before your eyes, as well as theirs? Do you cut them out of your life for good?

I know my answers to the above questions, however, I am trying to be a new person, a different person... I'm trying to lose my bitterness, my knee jerk reactions. I do NOT think that there is EVER a good reason to lie to someone, especially if you say your a friend to that person.

Tell me what you would do, tell me how you would handle the situation.

6 comments:

annie kelleher said...

i guess it depends on the kind of lie and who tells it. a white lie to spare my feelings i can both cope with and forgive - after all, i'm as guilty of white lies as the next person. a deliberate deceit in order to get something from me -like telling someone you're divorced when you're really still married - i find that more difficult to deal with. just recently i found out someone who told me he was a priest - a catholic priest - turned out to be married with two kids. now, why this guy would do such a thingis beyond me - he even wore a collar like a priest - but im not going to confront him - it's not worth my getting involved. he's crazy and i dont want to dance with that kind of energy. however, a deliberate lie, told by someone close to you, like a sibling - that kind of lie i'd confront. not nastily, necessarily... just... assertively.

The Girl You Don't Bring Home to Momma said...

Maybe this is really bad advice, but cut them out of your life. Once a liar always a liar.

greedygrace said...

Thanks for commenting on my blog. That was such a sweet and kind thing to say. I really appreciate it.

As for liars... hmmmm. I think it would depend on the lie and if I had ever been lied to by that person before. If my boss says "you're getting a promotion" and then I don't, I probably would just take everything she says after that with a grain of salt. If my husband says "I promise I'll never cheat on you" and then he does, he might find that some of his limbs are ending up in the wood chipper!

Ashley said...

Just for you, it's http://chickenliver.wordpress.com/.So bad.

Lea said...

Wow, thanks Ashley! I think I might post about this...

BTW it appears that it is a woman (probably a jealous one) since in one of her posts she admits to being a mom.

Yeah, I think I might write something about it. Thanks again for the link!

Lea said...

For some reason, Annie, I can't see you confronting anyone in an angry manner

I have to still mull it over. Was it a white lie? No, I don't think so... maybe I'll blog the whole damn thing which would make it easier to understand. The more I think about it, the more stupid it is though so, I don't know.

Girl who I wouldn't take home to mom... Walking away is probably the best thing to do. However, me being me can't seem to do that. I might have a confrontation and THEN walk away... just not sure yet. Again, maybe I need to blog it all, so everyone can see how stupid I am or he is or both of us are... Thanks for the input.